http://www.karipatterson.com/2008/06/16/pat-answers/ Kari Patterson Tue, 07 Feb 2012 21:44:42 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 http://www.karipatterson.com/2008/06/16/pat-answers/comment-page-1/#comment-465 Nikki Tue, 17 Jun 2008 23:28:22 +0000 http://www.karipatterson.com/?p=189#comment-465 You are so right on. I know that there have been times when I've given a pat answer and in retrospect seen that I did it because it was easier than just being quiet with that person. There's a compulsion to have a "right" answer rather than saying, "I don't know why this is happening" or "I'm sorry for you." But I know from my experience that those who just let me grieve, rant, question, and release, without preaching or telling me why I shouldn't feel that way were true friends and good listeners. You are so right on. I know that there have been times when I’ve given a pat answer and in retrospect seen that I did it because it was easier than just being quiet with that person. There’s a compulsion to have a “right” answer rather than saying, “I don’t know why this is happening” or “I’m sorry for you.” But I know from my experience that those who just let me grieve, rant, question, and release, without preaching or telling me why I shouldn’t feel that way were true friends and good listeners.

]]> http://www.karipatterson.com/2008/06/16/pat-answers/comment-page-1/#comment-464 Megan Tue, 17 Jun 2008 20:31:03 +0000 http://www.karipatterson.com/?p=189#comment-464 Amen. Amen.

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