(in)courage: Who Calls You Happy?

by Kari on March 3, 2011

Hello, friends!

And if you’re new here, Welcome. My name is Kari and I’m so glad you came.

Today is an exciting day because today we get to join the many faithful women of (in)courage, an online community that serves as home to the hearts of women. I pray, as always, that everything you read here, and there, helps us live out the sacredness of the mundane–glorifying God in the details of life.  Here’s a little glimpse of today’s post…

Who Calls You Happy?

“Do you like it?” I pointed at the Anthro-inspired artwork I’d quilted out of old sweaters and looked at my friend, awaiting her response.

She shrugged her shoulders and looked at me.  “Do you like it?”

I stared back at her. What?

Did I like it?

The question took me back to 7th grade when I wore a rather unusual twirly skirt to school one day. My grandma had made it, and it was either stunning or horrid—I couldn’t decide.  It would certainly take some work to pull it off.  I went for it.

Of course it took all of two minutes for me to see the verdict on the faces of the girls at school.  A glance down, eyebrows up, look back up at my face, smirk. It was dumb. My skirt had failed.  I went home at lunch and changed my clothes.

Later that day a friend had chided me with wisdom beyond her twelve years: “Why’d you change?  Don’t let what other people think make you change your clothes. If you like the skirt, wear it.”

Did I like the skirt?

Do I like the artwork?

Or are my opinions simply the sum total of others?

While I’ve grown out of that skirt, I haven’t grown out of my over-dependence on others’ opinions…[Read the rest here]