(in)courage: Who Calls You Happy?

by Kari on March 3, 2011

Hello, friends!

And if you’re new here, Welcome. My name is Kari and I’m so glad you came.

Today is an exciting day because today we get to join the many faithful women of (in)courage, an online community that serves as home to the hearts of women. I pray, as always, that everything you read here, and there, helps us live out the sacredness of the mundane–glorifying God in the details of life.  Here’s a little glimpse of today’s post…

Who Calls You Happy?

“Do you like it?” I pointed at the Anthro-inspired artwork I’d quilted out of old sweaters and looked at my friend, awaiting her response.

She shrugged her shoulders and looked at me.  “Do you like it?”

I stared back at her. What?

Did I like it?

The question took me back to 7th grade when I wore a rather unusual twirly skirt to school one day. My grandma had made it, and it was either stunning or horrid—I couldn’t decide.  It would certainly take some work to pull it off.  I went for it.

Of course it took all of two minutes for me to see the verdict on the faces of the girls at school.  A glance down, eyebrows up, look back up at my face, smirk. It was dumb. My skirt had failed.  I went home at lunch and changed my clothes.

Later that day a friend had chided me with wisdom beyond her twelve years: “Why’d you change?  Don’t let what other people think make you change your clothes. If you like the skirt, wear it.”

Did I like the skirt?

Do I like the artwork?

Or are my opinions simply the sum total of others?

While I’ve grown out of that skirt, I haven’t grown out of my over-dependence on others’ opinions…[Read the rest here]


{ 7 comments… read them below or add one }

Jenny March 3, 2011 at 5:03 am

Beautiful post. I see this “do you like it/do you like me?” attitude in one of my daughters especially. When she asks “do you like it?” I ask her “Do you like it?” And if the answer is yes, I ask her why. I want her to be able to make her own decisions and then be able to defend her decision. Sometimes, if we know the reason why we like or even dislike something, we can not be easily swayed by others opinions.


jennyv March 3, 2011 at 6:52 am

” But when we believe God’s Word, we stand secure: “Whoever trusts in the LORD, happy is he” (Prov. 20:16). That’s who calls you happy. ”

WOW… these words meant so much to me today. Love this post!


Lacey March 3, 2011 at 9:03 am

I love this and APPRECIATE it, Kari. It couldn’t have come at a better time for me. So, thank you. :) I’ve shared it with everyone I know!


Lisa-Jo @incourage March 3, 2011 at 9:17 am

Kari – this post is so wonderful – you just keep preaching it because so many of us need to hear it!

So glad to have you over at (in)courage today – thanks for sharing your story and your encouragement with us!



Stephanie March 3, 2011 at 10:13 am

I found this at (in)courage and I have read it over and over again today and shared it with several friends. So beautiful and such an important, needed reminder. Thank you.


Amy Sullivan March 3, 2011 at 11:03 am

Really great piece over at (in)courage. I have a similar story that involves a one piece, zip up, yellow outfit!


laura@lifeoverseas March 3, 2011 at 11:11 pm

loved reading this piece today! can so identify with needing others to make up my own mind. i think that is one of the best things about growing older– i am learning who i am more with each year.

thanks so much!


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