Because the world isn’t your report card…

by Kari on June 26, 2013

report card

I can still remember asking my mom the question when I was all of 7-years-old:

“Mommy, can I have a report card like the kids at school?”

I can still remember her smile. Her looking down at me. Her reply: “Honey, you are doing great. You work hard, you have a great attitude, and you’re learning lots. I’m so pleased with you. Why do you want a report card?”

Why did I want a report card? I don’t know. I was homeschooled. I didn’t have to have one. But I remember her kindly humoring me and taking a sheet of paper, writing my name, and making a list of A’s down the side with categories such as “cares for others,” “works hard,” and “listens well.” I clutched the hand-written report and beamed.

Now I have to chuckle and shake my head at this story. Partly because I still find myself 26 years later walking around the world and looking for a report card. Please? Or, worse–seeing everything in the world as one giant report card. Each day ends with a giant letter grade scribbled across the page of my life. Have you ever been there?

Sometimes it’s my kids. If we have a smooth day with cheerful attitudes or they sit quietly in church, I have an A. If they’re particularly sour or we had an incident at the store, I’m down to a D- and wish I weren’t even in the class.

Sometimes it’s my husband.  Even though my man is awesome, way too often I have believed the lie that if he’s struggling it’s because I’ve somehow failed on my end. Haven’t submitted enough or been joyful enough or haven’t given him enough lovin’. No matter what the issue is, surely his struggle must indicate my failure. It’s just another unfortunate report card.

Sometimes it’s my writing. Can I just be brutally honest and say that sometimes, just sometimes, the number of Facebook “likes” can feel like a giant report card? Sometimes, when my eyes are not on Jesus or my heart is in a bad space, it can feel like daily standing naked before an audience and watching a thousand thumbs point up or down. Is it any wonder writer’s block plagues us at times?

Sometimes it’s ministry, friendships, the state of my house or the number on the scale or a whole host of other ridiculous “whatevers” that that particular day might hold. Anything can be taken by the enemy and folded into a nice paper report card, by which my happiness can come …

… and go.

The truth is, whatever the report card of the day might say, if we look to it to find our worth we are well on our way to misery.

The truth is, the world is not your report card. 

The truth is, some days your kids are angels and some days they are … something else. Some days your man will be flourishing and some days he will struggle too … just like you. Some days you will be celebrated and some days you will be forgotten.

Just like Jesus. 

His children misbehave sometimes. His Bride struggles often. His Word usually isn’t “liked” much at all. 

What does that mean?

It means we must remember that our report card was a list of F’s for every category. But there is now, written in His blood, the name JESUS printed across the top, cancelling out every debt, every failure, every shortcoming.

We no longer need a report card. Jesus Christ nailed ours to the cross and told us, once and for all, we are accepted and beloved in Him. My mom’s words, “I”m so pleased with you. Why do you need a report card?”

You’re right, Mom.

I don’t. 

~

{This is from last year but I love, love, love this truth and cling to it constantly, because Jesus is enough and His blood covers it all! Be free today from the shackles of a report-card existence. I pray blessing for you today … thanks for reading}

 

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Debra June 26, 2013 at 8:39 am

This post IS Re-refreshing to my life. Thank you that in your wrestlings His truth is VICTORIOUS! Blessed day dear one.

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Mark Allman June 26, 2013 at 8:47 am

Kari,
Very wise words. I do think we all want to know we make an impact in this life and are looking for that approval in our lives. It is hard sometimes to be satisfied knowing that our goal should be to obey God and love like Him. If we are doing that then we should no be looking for a grade. That being said I do think it helps to encourage one another through this life; to recognize when others are being faithful to God and to cheer them on with words or notes of encouragement. While we may not need the report card from others it can do wonders to get that encouragement and I think we should look for opportunities to give others A’s when we can.

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Angela N Derek Vela June 29, 2013 at 2:01 pm

Hello,

I am touched by your post. I am a middle school teacher and often find myself frustrated with the concepts of grades. My opinion is that we need students that can make wise choices. We do not need to raise a generation of intelligent students that have no ability to reason between right and wrong. I believe that at the middle school and high school level students should be given a citizenship grade. Jesus said, :”Love you neighbor as yourself.” He never called anyone of us to be the most intelligent one in the class but he did say to be loving… :)

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Sasha July 10, 2013 at 7:47 am

Thank you Kari. Exactly what I needed to read right after waking up! Today will be a better day because of this. Thank you again. It’s just what I needed!

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