Why it really does matter…

We talked here about poor Peter, who tripped up on the fear of man and found himself doing stupid stuff. We’ve all been there. But here is the sobering part of the story:

After Peter pulled away from the Gentiles and separated himself by only eating with Jews, Galatians 2:13 says the “rest of the Jews” and even Barnabas were “carried away” by Peter’s behavior.

Everyone followed Peter in this! This is why this is so dangerous.

This is why we must change.

This is why it really does matter. 

All that we do affects others. Whether you feel like it or not, you are a leader.

Passages like this scare me – I blog, I write, I teach a lot. And no matter how much we love Jesus and are used by Him to spread the gospel, we are all vulnerable to the fear of man and hypocrisy. And it’s worth nothing that this happened to Peter even after Pentecost. Even after the supernatural indwelling by the Holy Spirit. No matter how spirit-filled and powerfully anointed we are by God, we are all susceptible to the fear of man and hypocrisy. We have to be on guard.

The question for us is, Who am I possibly “leading astray” by actions?

See, everything that we do “preaches” something, right? Remember we are the only Bibles some people will read.

While we wouldn’t dream of going around and knocking on people’s doors and preaching a false gospel to them, would we walk around living a false gospel for them?

The pure and true gospel message can be tarnished and polluted by our false living just as much as by our false teaching. Just as Paul was opposing the Judaizers who were false teach-ers, he was opposing hypocrites who were false live-ers.

Our simple guiding question: What does this action “preach” about my God? Does it validate the gospel or invalidate? Does it add weight and credibility to Christ’s message, or does it erode the beautiful foundation Jesus laid?

How am I helping or hindering the precious souls God has put in my path?

CS Lewis said it like this:

It may be possible for each to think too much of his own potential glory hereafter; it is hardly possible for him to think too often or too deeply about that of his neighbor. The load, or weight, or burden of my neighbor’s glory should be laid daily on my back, a load so heavy that only humility can carry it, and the backs of the proud will be broken.

It is a serious thing to live in a society of possible gods and goddesses, to remember that the dullest and most uninteresting person you talk to may one day be a creature which, if you saw it now, you would be strongly tempted to worship, or else a horror and a corruption such as you now meet, if at all, only in a nightmare.

All day long we are, in some degree, helping each other to one or other of these destinations. It is in the light of these overwhelming possibilities, it is with the awe and circumspection proper to them, that we should conduct all our dealings with one another, all friendships, all loves, all play, all politics. There are no ordinary people. You have never talked to a mere mortal. Nations, cultures, arts, civilization–these are mortal, and their life is to ours as the life of a gnat. But it is immortals whom we joke with, work with, marry, snub, and exploit–immortal horrors or everlasting splendors.

This does not mean that we are to be perpetually solemn. We must play. But our merriment must be of that kind (and it is, in fact, the merriest kind) which exists between people who have, from the outset, taken each other seriously–no flippancy, no superiority, no presumption. And our charity must be real and costly love, with deep feeling for the sins in spite of which we love the sinner–no mere tolerance or indulgence which parodies love as flippancy parodies merriment. Next to the Blessed Sacrament itself, your neighbor is the holiest object presented to your senses.

 That’s why it really does matter. We’re helping everyone get somewhere. What does your life preach?

{Feeling the healthy weight of this with you … thanks for reading.}

How to have the best Mother's Day…

“The only mothers it is safe to forget on Mother’s Day are the good ones.”

~

Ha! Isn’t that the truth? Jeff and I are so blessed to both have “good ones” in the mom department, but isn’t it true in all areas that there are those in your life who are “safe” to forget and those who are not? For those who are not, there is an understood expectation in that relationship that you better do xyz on such-and-such day or so-and-so will be sorely disappointed.  And then how do you wind up feeling?

Exhausted.

Oh my. I always want to be a person who is “safe to forget”!

Last night I sat in the old cream rocking chair in the kids’ room. Both kids had asked to be rocked, and yes! was my answer to both.  So they filled up my lap, spilling over, arms wrapped around each other and faces nuzzled into my neck.  I rocked, kissing the tops of their heads, unable to speak, not wanting to move, knowing this moment would last only moments. I closed my eyes and knew:

These are my Mother’s Day gifts.

The term “mother’s day gift” is redundant. Who needs a gift when one is a mother?

The gifts are already given.

 They have pulses and eyelashes and puppy-dog breath. They are exhilarating and exhausting and infuriating and intoxicating.  They are gifts. It’s wonderful if one of them gives you a gift tomorrow, but the gift has already been given.

That’s what makes us “safe to forget.”

Some of us, myself at times, forget that a zillion beautiful gifts have already been given. When we forget, we expect everyone else to give them to us. We might not expect a gift wrapped in paper or bow, but we expect a creative day or a special surprise or just the right words or someone to read our minds and give us what we want and do not say. And then at the end of the day you know how we feel?

Exhausted. (And so does everyone else.)

What if, instead, we realized each day that the gifts are already given. On mother’s day we have the gifts we hold upon our laps (or used to!). On a birthday we have the gift of LIFE, of breath, of being born and still being alive. On an anniversary we have a marriage–aglorious picture of divine love–no matter how imperfect it is. On Christmas we have God with us!! Who needs anything else? On Valentine’s Day we have the Lover of our Souls.  On Easter we have a risen Lord.

Every holiday celebrates a gift that is already given.

And if we spent our precious time celebrating these already-gifts, I wonder what the result might be …

We might become safe to forget.

We might even forget about ourselves.

Oh blessed state, there is no joy like that.

{Happy Mother’s Day. Thanks for reading.}

#15 Make your kitchen paperless {52 bites}

{*If you’re new to Sacred Mundane (welcome!), each Friday we take a “Bite” from Simple Mom’s 52-bites e-book on simplifying life. Feel free to hop in now and start eating that elephant! Click here see all we’ve eaten so far…}

Okay folks, have you ever lodged some idea into your mind and then been shocked when you realized you had the totally wrong idea? I remember one time I was in charge of interviewing possible candidates for a personal trainer position at the women’s fitness club where I worked. I interviewed Adrian over the phone, she sounded great, so I invited her in for an in-person interview. For almost a week I planned for this interview. When the time for the appointment came, Adrian walked in the door … it was a MAN. Oh I wanted to cry. I’m sure he must have figured it out when he looked around and realized it was a women’s gym. There was nothing I could do. We stumbled through a horrendously awkward interview and wished him well.

*SIGH*

Well this wasn’t that bad. I’d been planning to do this Bite for a few weeks now, but in my mind I thought Tsh was going to make me get rid of all my paper recipes and only do it online? Or only do online bill paying? Wasn’t quite sure but I was a little hesitant about getting rid of all my documents.

Aha! Getting rid of paper products. Paper towels. Napkins. Oh dear, my brain. Well it was perfect timing because I actually just did this the past month, but I didn’t know it was a Bite!

I just thought I was copying my friend Candi. To save money, Candi doesn’t use any napkins or paper towels. She uses rags and cloth napkins. So this past month, I didn’t buy any. I still have a 1/3-roll of paper towels hidden under the sink (just in case) and about 10 flowery spring napkins on hand, but other than that–we’re paperless. It definitely saves money.  It was nice to remove those two items off my grocery list. So here are some ideas from Maya Bissineer  for making this work well:: 

Four Categories of Cloth: (in different place, simple, distinctive)

1. Deep cleaning: “This category is for cleaning dirt, sticky stuff, grease, and pretty much any kitchen mess. I invested in ten really good, industrial-strength static cleaning cloths.”

2. Kids’ cloths:  “As I put the kids’ old clothes away, I discovered a number of washcloths and burp cloths—some even unopened. I put all of these into a little basket and my girls have that basket of napkins all to themselves for anything they like.”

3. Exclusive:  “This is the pile of napkins for the guests. A little nicer, these are mostly put away until the guests arrive.”

4. Everything Else: “This category consists of about 20 very generic napkins. This is the critical pile that we use for just about anything—when in doubt, we reach for these napkins.”

I love this! I’m totally going to do it. I actually have lots of really nice cloth napkins we received as gifts when we got married NINE years ago that we never use! Time to pull those out. And for the Everything Else rags I think I need look no further than my husband’s old t-shirt pile. Shhhh…. 

{Thanks for reading!}

Why we do stupid stuff…

Poor Peter. (Poor me.)

Peter was always doing stupid stuff, sticking his foot in his mouth, passionately declaring one thing while acting out another, jumping out of the boat then sinking, proving his valor by chopping off an ear. I wish I couldn’t relate quite so much.

In Galatians 2, Paul tells us yet another story about poor Peter.  Peter, a Jew, was living out the gospel authentically, living out what he had preached by eating with the Gentiles (in the Jewish custom Jews and Gentiles had to dine separately, but the gospel declared all one in Christ).

But when some other Jewish men came along, (that is, the religious big wigs) he began pulling away and only eating with Jews. Paul takes issue with this and confronts Peter in front of everyone, pointing out Peter’s hypocrisy that was tarnishing the pure message of the gospel. He says, in so many words:

“Peter, you’re acting stupid.”

Peter should have known better than any apostle that God has declared all foods—and people—clean. Through a miraculous vision in Act 10, God revealed this truth to Peter and Peter then affirmed this truth in Acts 10:28:

“You yourselves know how unlawful it is for a Jew to associate with or to visit anyone of another nation, but God has shown me that I should not call any person common or unclean. … Truly I understand that God shows no partiality” (v.34)

The revelation about this specific thing came directly from God through Peter, and yet here he is – weak, fearful, vacillating. Why? What would drive Peter to hypocrisy, to compromising the very truth that had been revealed to him by God Himself? What would drive Peter to do this?

Verse 12 tells us: Peter was “fearing …”

Fear.

It wasn’t that his beliefs were off, Peter knew the truth, it was that he was giving in to pressure – He was simply falling prey to the fear of man. Even though he knew the freedom of the gospel, his freedom was stolen by his fear.

Proverbs 29:25 says, “The fear of man is a snare.” The word-picture here is someone walking along and tripped up by the fear of man, causing the person to get caught and fall down.

I’ve fallen down the stairs too many times to count. How do you feel when you fall down the stairs? Or trip over your feet?  Or miss a step and eat it in front of everyone?

Yup. That’s the word picture.

Peter is acting stupid. The fear of man makes us do stupid things and even makes us compromise our faith, all because of who we’re trying to impress.

Anybody else every been there?

Today, friend, Who are we trying to please? 

Here’s the trick: The best way to quit fearing and pleasing man and start fearing and pleasing God isn’t to focus on people and pleasing them or fearing them, it’s by simply learning to please and fear God more than anything else. Study who He is. Right now in Bible study we are studying the names and nature of God, and it is phenomenal! When we actually see who He is, in His greatness and glory, those other little fear-of-man snares slide to the wayside in the glory of who He is. The best way to escape the fear of man: increase your daily input of studying, seeing, and savoring the greatness and glory of God.

We’ll still do stupid stuff, but, Lord willing, a lot less often.

{Stumbling along with you; thanks for reading.}