CCE Update 1: Diapers

Ok, so I promise to not turn this into a coupon clipping website, but I’m really curious (and still skeptical) about this whole Cash, Coupon, Envelope thing (CCE), so I’ll post some updates now and again.  Here’s #1: (read the last post first if you have no idea what I’m talking about).

So last night I spent 1 hour surfing for coupons, from 9:15-10:15pm.  Mixed bag.  Down side:  I was a little frustrated because again, most of the coupons were for things I would never buy.  We try to stay away from a lot of pre-packaged food, and you just can’t find online coupons for most of the things we eat.  Secondly, I was a little frustrated because I felt like a lot of the sites were speaking a different language: use insert from PR, use RR, IE, EE, AGH!!  Plus I couldn’t get the “coupon printer” application to work on my computer, so I spent most of the time frustrated that even if I did find a coupon I couldn’t print it.  But I’ll get Jeff to fix that and I will persevere!

I also had to chuckle because apparently I’m not the only one who feels like that. One woman commented, “I have to figure out a better way to do this coupon thing because I’m dying a slow death of stress…”  Yikes! I also was surprised to realize sometimes to use all your coupons you have to do a bunch of transactions at a single store, or hit 5 stores in order to get all the deals.  I wish I could say I can do that but I cannot imagine doing that while toting around my kids.  Dutch would have the store burnt down by the time we got out of there.  Yes, I know that’s another issue: Parenting and Discipline are the next topics of discussion.

Positive Side:  I found a good diaper deal at www.diapers.com. If you spend $49 (easy), use the coupon code FRUGALLIVI (www.frugallivingnw.com), you get $10 off (if you’re a new customer), then you can fill out a rebate form once you get your diapers and The Early Years parenting magazine will send you a check for $15.  Now, I usually buy Costco diapers, $39 for 200. WIth this deal I got 300 diapers for $30 (after the rebate arrives, 6-8 weeks).  Now I did get a cheaper brand (Luvs), but still, 300 diapers would cost $57 at Costco–so that’s $27 savings.  The downside is that that’s only a one-time deal for new customers, but hey, not bad.

1 hour spent

$27 savings.

I can’t say it was fun, and I would have loved that extra hour of sleep, but $27/hour isn’t bad for sitting in bed next to my sweet sleeping husband.

Enjoy the day!
K

Three words I hate & why I'm willing to try…

So most of you know that I am already a penny pincher.  Winco and Goodwill are my best friends.  I budget out our money to the dollar.  In fact, some of you are about to receive a pretty gold Christmas card in the mail.  I will have you know that I took 6 trips to Michael’s over the past few weeks, using a 40% coupon each time (they won’t let you use more than one at a time), in order to get that screamin’ deal on those cards. Aren’t they beautiful?  And for less than buying printer paper!   However I will admit that during those 6 trips to Michael’s I developed a hatred of that store.  I won’t rant and rave, but I swore to Jeff that I would never set foot inside Michael’s again.

See I have this love/hate relationship with coupons and deals and discounts. I love the idea of saving money, but I always feel like it’s so frustrating that I end up hating the process so much it’s not worth it.  Hence my post recently about Discount Distraction.  However… I am humbling myself and saying perhaps I will give it another try.  Here’s why:

At church we’ve been doing this AMAZING series on generosity. I almost typed that it’s been my favorite series ever, but I think I write that about every series we do, so I won’t say it, but I feel that way!  It’s been awesome, and SO challenging to think of more and more ways that we can quit living like fat American consumers and start giving more for the Kingdom of God.  So get this:  A few weeks ago, we did this fun experiment at church, and just for fun we had every family just jot down on a little piece of paper what 10% of their household income was. Just to see what it would look like if everyone in our church tithed.  We actually didn’t do it for our Saturday night service, so I think they figured we got about 70% percent of our total church.  Still a good amount, enough to get an estimate, right? Just for fun.

So over the past few weeks we’ve been curious to hear what the tally was, what it would look like if our church tithed.  Well tonight during Joel’s message he showed a video to give the results… (if I can get it I’ll post it on here).  Let’s just say I was weeping.  The lights went off and the music began, and the total was over SIX MILLION dollars. They had it counted out to the dollar, and showed the number on the screen, THEN went through silently listing the things that could be done with that extra money, paying off our mortgage, quadruple our missions fund, aid millions in foreign countries.  It was staggering.  People this is a LOT of money, and that is only 10% of our church family’s income.  By the time the video was done Joel was weeping, I was weeping, and I’m sure a lot of others were as well. It was just amazing to see the potential, and so exciting to think of what God could do with Christians, if we only were willing to give.

So while yes we tithe, yes we give to missionaries, yes we support an awesome kid in Rwanda, we still live like kings.  Did you know that if your household income is $45,000 or more you are in the top 1% richest people on the planet?  Yes, 1%.  We are filthy rich.  So, I’m challenged by all of this to ask God to stretch me, show me how I can spend less to give more. Show me ways that I’m not stewarding your finances well.

And I kept hearing mentioned the three little words I hate to hear:  Cash, coupons, envelopes.  Now don’t get me wrong, I think that whole envelope thing is awesome if you’re really having trouble with spending habits, but we are by and large really budgeted people.  Plus, coupons seem infuriating because it takes so much work to hunt them down and they’re never for what I want, blah blah blah complain complain complain. Well tonight Joel shared that studies show (now you’re speaking my language) that people who use cash instead of a card spend 12-18% less.   Now, that could just be that generally people who use cash are those trying to cut costs, so they are already those who will spend less anyway. But still, 12-18% is pretty good!  Now I’ve always had a million objections such as: Do I have to carry around all that cash in my purse all the time??  What about when I’m at Costco and I get 1)diapers 2) groceries 3) a Christmas gift and 4) stamps.  That could conceivably come out of 4 different envelopes and that sounds totally frustrating to me.

But enough being stubborn.  I’m willing to give it a try. So tonight I sat down, with our 2010 budget, and mapped out a way I could try this crazy cash thing.  Plus, I’m even going to give coupons another chance. Joel shared a statistic about their family grocery bill savings and it was enough to get my attention. Let’s just say I’m a skeptic, out to try to prove myself wrong.

So hear I go.  I have my scissors in hand, a stack of envelopes.  And whatever we “save”, we’ll give away.  Deal?  Will you help me in this experiment by sending me links to good coupon places, advice on this crazy envelope thing, tips on carrying cash, etc. I need all the help I can get!

Thoughts on Thanksgiving

About ten blog titles have been swirling around in my mind. What a week it has been!  We’ve had visiting houseguests from Arizona (Jeff’s brother, his wife, and their two kids–4 year-old and 18 month-old), we have THIRTY people (including kids) for Thanksgiving dinner, a hilariously chaotic dinner fiasco in Portland (waiting for permission to share), and I am thoroughly exhausted.  But it was glorious. Wonderful!  Some amazing God-ordained conversations, some reconciliation where brokenness reigned, some really treasured things.  But even though I was home the whole time, it wasn’t until I walked into church tonight, got the kids checked (it was a fiasco just to get there, another story), and walked down into the dimmed sanctuary, that my soul found rest. Ahhh…. home.

Home in the presence of God.  Oh certainly He was with us this whole week, and certainly we communed. But there is nothing for my dry soul like worshipping with God’s people. And strangely enough, I actually like sitting alone. I usually do sit alone because Jeff is working doing something or other, and I like to sit way up front because if I sit in the back I get distracted by people and by hearing myself sing (which is not pretty).  In the front I can’t get distracted and it’s so loud I can sing at the top of my lungs and only hear the beautiful voices of the vocalists up front. 🙂 It’s great.

Anyway, it felt great to be back at home in my church family. After a week of being host, it was delicious to sit and savor, to receive, to soak in God’s presence and sing with His people.

See the one thing that was very discouraging this week was–you guessed it–Dutch.  I love his dear little self but I am telling you this boy gives me fits.  This pooping thing is ridiculous, and day after day of him secretly pooping his pants in remote corners of the house then hiding and by the time I find it it’s smeared everywhere, day after day of nothing but WHINING about every single thing.  Of wishing that just ONCE we could do something without it being a battle, that a day could go by without -panking.  I know, I know–this too shall pass.  It just struck me especially this week because having two more kids in the house seemed to heighten every battle.  And then I felt like being unplugged for several days, to be with family, made me so far behind in women’s ministry things, I just felt overwhelmed.

So I arrived at church knowing that tears would probably spill.  Not because anything is bad, just because of how I need God’s wisdom and grace to love this little boy and to balance all the things we’re involved in, and to find the balance between ministry and family and…

So I’m realizing this is getting too long and I haven’t even gotten to the sermon from tonight which is what I wanted to share! 🙂  So I’ll write that tomorrow.  Tonight I’ll just share the things I learned from Thanksgiving break, ok?

1. For cool conversations to happen, you first just have to be there.  For a long time. And be willing to do nothing, for a long time.  And then, when you least expect it–cool conversations happen.

2. Everyone thinks not having a TV at Thanksgiving would be a disaster. It wasn’t.

3. Letting two toddlers go absolutely hog wild and make a disaster with a Monopoly game in the office so that you can eat an entire Thanksgiving dinner in peace and quiet is totally worth it.

4. No one can argue with being loved.

5. A little wine really does help…

6. Children’s books are amazing ways to share Christ.

7. Never. Ever. EVER blindly trust your google traffic report.  Just go out and check for yourself.

8. No matter how good the deal, shopping on black Friday is the still the most joyless thing on earth. (ok that’s just my opinion)

9. It takes 3 hours and 2 minutes to walk from the Portland Multnomah Club to the Portland airport.

10. Everyone has something to be thankful for.

Goodnight.

Loving People

Jeff texted me this this morning:

We can authentically love people when we’re not in slavery to their approval.

Amen!  This is a toughy for me. I’m such a people pleaser.  And it’s selfish pride that’s behind it, wanting to do what makes people happy so that they are pleased…with me!  It’s all a selfish motivation.  How freeing when we can love people for their sake, with perfect love that casts out all fear, when thought of approval or acceptance no longer is the driving force, but pure overflowing love.  I feel like so much of my love is stained, marred, mashed by my selfishness getting in the way.  I pray for us today for the grace to move beyond the slavery of other’s approval, into the authentic love of Christ.  I think that will get the attention of a watching world who desperately needs Jesus.