A cause for celebration today
I had to laugh when I looked back at my prayer journal from five years ago. I was praying for Jeff, that he would:
- Get up early
- Exercise
I would have never imagined that now he’d be waking at 4am so he can get his triathlon training in before the kids and I wake up. Ha! I never would have dreamed that we’d be planning our annual family road-trip around the dates for the Arizona half-ironman, that he’d be racing with Team World Vision and the result would be thousands of dollars raised to provide clean water for kids in Africa.
It wasn’t that he was lazy back then, he was just in a slump, a hard season. We all have them. But it’s been amazing for me to watch a true transformation in my man’s life over the last 4.5 years. It’s not just about early-rising and exercise, it’s about the inside-out transformation God does, often through physical discipline. It’s been such a joy to see him not only enjoy the physical and spiritual benefits of exercise, but to now partner with Team World Vision, getting to do what he loves to help those in need.

I share this for a few reasons.
- People can change. Sure, we might not all be elite athletes, but it’s such a load of lies to believe that “we’ll always be this way” or “he’ll always be this way.” God-inspired baby-steps can lead to total transformation over the long haul.
- Prayer is our most powerful weapon. Pretty sure we know this, but nagging never works. Nobody ever got nagged into greatness. Praying fervently for those we love is the best idea. Always.
- It’s Jeff’s birthday today (woohoo!) and in honor of his 38th, he’s chosen to do a 38.3-mile triathlon tomorrow, to raise more money for those kiddos in Africa.
Will you help me celebrate him by contributing to the cause?
I don’t mean to make this a brag-on-my-man post but I just can’t help saying: If you could see how hard this man works. He rises before dawn to discipline his body by running, biking, lifting, then spending time in the Word and prayer, laboring over the scriptures and praying for us and so many others. He leads with humility. He gives himself selflessly, over and over and over, in order to free me up to pursue what God’s called me to do. He loves others faithfully. He serves our family tirelessly. He lives frugally, often going without. He thinks of others before himself. He never demands his own way. He’s eternally patient with my ups and downs. He constantly invests in our kids.

And all he wants for his birthday is a whole bunch of contributions to World Vision for water projects in South Sudan. So, would you consider blessing him (me!) by doing just that? It’s easy peasy, click here and follow the instructions. Oh and you can read more about this adventure here. I think it’ll be worth your time. http://www.renewjeff.com/loneliman-38pt3-preview/
Thank you for helping me celebrate my man, and praise God for His good work in his life. Happy weekend. Thanks for reading.
The Chore & Cleaning System that’s working for us
Finally! I’ve heard from many of you, asking if I’d share the simple chore and cleaning system that’s been working for us. I’m sorry it’s taken me forever to get to this, here we go:
It’s also taken me forever, it seems, to find a good system that works. When the kids were little I used Chore Cards and a Picture Plan, but now that they’re older I needed something that I could change daily as needed, something where I could incorporate school and chores, along with a sort of schedule so they could see the plan for the day.
On top of that, I desperately needed a Cleaning Schedule that would work for me. I’ve tried the Once a Month cleaning (which is great!) but it was hard for me to carve out an entire day for cleaning, and we host a lot of people and gatherings around here, so once a month just was not enough. Plus, I’m not at all wired for frequent cleaning, unless I force myself to do it regularly, I just won’t. I’m naturally tidy, but I don’t love cleaning. So I needed a system in order to get disciplined in this area.
Plus, our living space is almost double what our old house was (although it’s actually fewer rooms, they are big rooms), plus we now have property to maintain, so I knew I needed a solid system or I would easily get overwhelmed and fall hopelessly behind.
So, I prayed. I prayed that God would lead me a system that worked. A simple something that I could actually keep up with. Normally with prayers I would pray and open my Bible, but this time:
I prayed … and opened Pinterest.
I prayed God would direct me to a editable cleaning schedule that would work for me. This was the one that struck me right away, and I loved how clean and simple the design was, and that I could edit it to make it tailor-made for me.
At the same time, the idea struck me that I needed a sort of focus of theme for each day of the week. As you may know, I love systems that simplify life and decrease decision fatigue (a killer for me, I feel like I’m often exhausted just from leading various spheres and having to make decisions). Basically, the more things I can have as a HABIT, the more things that are simplified into a system, the more I can turn my attention to other areas and devote my brain-space to leadership, parenting, writing, creativity, etc.
What this means for us:
::FOCUS::
For the week, I had the idea to create a sort of theme for each day, basically the overarching focus for the day.
MASTER THE CHOAS MONDAY: (Here I tackle all the messes from the weekend, sort through items, unload or unpack, clean up any particular messes if we’ve had company.)
TASTY TUESDAY: (Here I do my bulk cooking: 3 loaves of bread, granola, Oregon Trail bars, and any roasted veggies or soups that need to be made. I also prep veggies like peel carrots, etc. for the rest of the week.)
WE WORK TOGETHER WEDNESDAY: (This is Jeff’s day off so after I tackle the basic living room chores, we do house or property projects together.)
THOUGHTFUL THURSDAY: (This is my fasting day where we never have company or go anywhere, we stay home and I do laundry and we just enjoy a quiet, calm day of contemplation and regrouping.)
FUN w/ FRIENDS AND FAMILY FRIDAY: (This is the day we schedule play-dates, go see family, or get ready for weekend plans. We don’t do much school these days–or skip it altogether–so it makes for a fun flexible day.)
SABBATH SATURDAY: (Often this is our Sabbath rest day, since Sundays are so busy. But that’s flexible. Mostly we try to have rest and renewal on this day, which might also include outdoor projects since we enjoy those so much.)
SUNDAY SERVE: (Here we focus on serving God and others. Sundays are super busy for us, so they aren’t necessarily a time for rest, but we focus on giving ourselves to serve on this day, and also
enjoy an occasional afternoon nap. 🙂
::CLEANING::
Here is the printable that I edited, downloaded, and love. It’s been several months now and I’m still loving it. I love that it’s so detailed it keeps me focused and helps keep me from cheating and getting lazy. I’m including a picture of my version so you can see how it works for me.
::FOOD::
I have a simple Weekly Menu Plan (yes, like, where we actually eat roughly the same thing each week. Sounds boring, it isn’t. It’s glorious.) Weekends are usually flexible because we have company, or go to people’s houses, or have our church Community Group. Or, we just eat pancakes or whatever random things are in the fridge. It’s not fancy, but it works!
MONDAY: Mexican (Burritos or taco salads, or just beans and rice)
TUESDAY: Italian (Homemade pizza, or pasta)
WEDNESDAY: American (Alaskan cod, or BBQ chicken in the crock pot)
THURSDAY: Indian (Chickpea curry with jasmine or Basmati rice)
FRIDAY: Leftovers
Nothing earth-shattering, but it simplifies cooking, shopping, budgeting, and makes me smile. The kids love it too.
::KIDS CHORES::
For the kids’ chores, school, and schedule, I decided to try Sarah Mackenzie’s Notebook System. I love it! My handwriting isn’t as pretty, and their notebooks aren’t cute, but the system definitely works. Here’s a sample from one of our days:
So that’s it. Not super impressive, but let me just tell you I am one happy mama to finally feel like we have some sense of order and organization to the details of our days. Plus, it’s their responsibility to complete these tasks, so it eliminates (mostly 😉 nagging and reminding.
For overall organization, I just ordered my dream-come-true paper Planner for next year, and it arrives on Friday, so I’ll share more of my process for planning ahead, after I do it. 😉
Hope this can be helpful! Thanks for reading.
The other half
I’ve been chewing on this verse, where Jesus says, “When you fast, do not look gloomy like the hyprocrites … When you fast, anoint your head and wash your face, that your fasting may not be seen by others but by your Father who is in secret. And your Father who sees in secret will reward you” (Matt. 6:16-18).
Seems pretty clear. He’s telling us to fast in secret, not for show. He said the same thing about praying, He said to go in your prayer closet and pray in private. Prayer is not for show.
But I’ve always wondered, What about corporate prayer? What about corporate fasting? Clearly you can’t keep your church prayer meeting a secret — ha! And there are loads of examples of corporate fasting in the scriptures, I can’t even list them all, but let’s just say I’ve been overwhelmed by the amount of times godly people met a challenge, crisis, war, dilemma, or struggle with a call to corporate fasting. Obviously that can’t be in secret.
Lou Engle helped settle this for me in his phenomenal book, The Jesus Fast. He basically just says, of course corporate fasting can’t be a secret, just don’t make it a big deal.
It seems a fair overarching principle then, the essence of what Jesus is saying is, “Don’t draw attention to yourself.” In other words, “Don’t make it about you.” This applies to fasting, praying, giving, anything. Right?
Serve Jesus faithfully, obey fully, and don’t make it about you.
Draw attention to Jesus.
The end.
For now, I would love to just draw your attention once again to the book I mentioned before, The Jesus Fast. It’s an absolute steal on Amazon, a buy you won’t regret.
So far, it’s been interesting how the Lord has directed a sort of theme, or overarching impression each day. One of the most prominent has been this: Holy Obedience: going with God the other half of the way.
One of my reads (slowly reading and chewing on and praying through) has been A Testament of Devotion by Thomas Kelly. I’ve quoted this book often, but only because I’ve seen the quotes in other books, I’ve never actually read it! I figured it was time. Wow. Talk about timely. Written in 1941, it’s right on time for today:
“‘There are plenty to follow our Lord half-way, but not the other half. They will give up possessions, friends, and honors, but it touches them too closely to disown themselves.’ It is just this astonishing life which is willing to follow Him the other half, sincerely to disown itself, this life which intends complete obedience, without any reservations, that I would propose to you in all humility, in all boldness, in all seriousness. I mean this literally, utterly, completely, and I mean it for you and for me — commit your lives in unreserved obedience to Him.
If you don’t realize the revolutionary explosiveness of this proposal you don’t understand what I mean. Only now and then comes a man or woman who, like John Woolman or Francis of Assisi, is willing to be utterly obedient, to go the other half, to follow God’s faintest whisper. But when such a commitment comes in a human life, God breaks through, miracles are wrought, world-renewing divine forces are released, history changes” (26).
This week I heard the glorious, beautiful song by Lindy Conant and the Circuit Riders, Take Courage. She sings,
“There’s a YES in our hearts, and it carries to eternity. Simple obedience changes history.”
Yes. That’s it. The yes. Live the yes. Go the other half. When this kind of complete obedience comes in a human life, God breaks through, miracles are wrought, world-renewing divine forces are released …
… history changes.
{Asking God to work in us this glorious holy obedience, the YES in our hearts that changes history. Thank you for reading.}
On state testing and holding hummingbirds
Sometimes it’s like I sabotage myself. Have you ever been there? It’s like,
“Oh let’s see: I’m super tired and grumpy today, we’ve had a full week and we’re all a bit on edge this morning. Why don’t we go ahead and set the day on fire by doing our state achievement practice tests today?!
Even though I’ve never given you a bubble test before, I think I’ll just throw it at you with zero preparation and expect you to do well, even though you have Asperger’s and are incredibly intolerant to change or surprises or new situations. Sure, great idea!”
What in the name of all that is good made me think this was a reasonable idea?
With unfounded optimism I glanced over the test and smiled — it was all stuff he knew, so I figured he was more than prepared.
What he wasn’t prepared for is test-taking. (Read the rest of this crazy day over at Simple Homeschool… thanks!)





